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8 Ways to Love Your Spouse

8 Ways to Love Your Spouse

I like the Reese hearts and the Russel Stover Chocolates.  My wife likes the chocolates and the red roses too.  Each Valentines day we are all reminded about the special relationships many of us are called by God to enjoy – marriage.  A happy and healthy marriage is possible!

If you and your spouse are having issues, do not wait to get help.  Please call me or another Christian counselor today.  Statistically I read some time ago that couples about to divorce wait 6 years too late to get counseling help.  Good news – your marriage perspective can change overnight with a little positive encouragement from a Christian counselor.

For today’s devotional, here are 8 Bible passages that when applied, can demonstrate love towards your spouse.

  1. Stay physically and emotionally faithful to your spouse alone.  This was declared on your wedding day.  Proverbs 5:15 Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.
  2. Celebrate spiritual, financial, educational, and relational victories. Throw a party for two, go out for coffee, or make a special meal. Ecclesiastes 4:9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
  3. Be Happy. Happiness is not conditional on circumstances but on the attitude. Happiness is a choice.  Ecclesiastes 9:9 Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.
  4. Blend everything you do and have together. Feelings, faith, friends, finances, etc. All these things should be combined. Matthew 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
  5. Choose to make the spiritually right decision. One of you is probably more spiritual than the other.  While the man should lovingly serve with Biblical leadership in the home, it is not always the case. Choose to have a positive, edifying spirit that will build up the other in the things of God. 1 Corinthians 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
  6. Modify expectations while not letting any disappointments change you. He made a mess.  She was not ready for intimacy.  Don’t let circumstances become sources of bitterness.  Colossians 3:18-19 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
  7. Understand each other. Know how the other thinks. Know the likes and dislikes.  This is something of a challenge!  1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
  8. Value and treasure the person God gave to you. God gave you a special gift to have as a companion in life.  While some people are called to “singleness” the Lord gave you a “help meet.”  Treasure this gift with all of your heart.  Proverb 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.












The Closers of Life

The Closers of Life

The sport of baseball will begin soon.  Spring training will start and players will spring into action, training, preparing, and conditioning for a new season.  I enjoyed playing the sport and played the position of pitcher for several years.  “Going the distance” is a phrase that is used when a pitcher starts the game and pitches each pitch for the entirety of the game.

Today most pitchers are not expected to go the distance.  There are now “closers” who plan to pitch the last inning or two.  They anticipate going to the mound fresh and energetic to strike out the opposing team.

The closers are watching the game, invested, and interested in what is happening.  They are eager to do their part to accomplish the goal of winning the game.

There are many people in Scripture that are good examples of starting and finishing.  In addition, there are several “closers” who conclude the good things that were started.

Consider the following:

  • The Lord & Moses: So Moses finished the work. Exodus 40:33 …
  • Moses & Joshua: …until every thing was finished that the LORD commanded Joshua to speak unto the people, according to all that Moses commanded Joshua… Joshua 4:10
  • Boaz & Ruth: Then said she, Sit still, my daughter, until thou know how the matter will fall: for the man will not be in rest, until he have finished the thing this day. Ruth 3:18
  • David & Solomon: So Solomon built the house, and finished it. I Kings 6:14
  • Jesus & The Father: I have glorified thee on the earth: I have finished the work which thou gavest me to do. John 17:4
  • Jesus & The Father: When Jesus therefore had received the vinegar, he said, It is finished: and he bowed his head, and gave up the ghost. John 19:30
  • The Lord & Paul: I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith.  II Timothy 4:7

Each good action started with the Lord putting a desire in the heart of the man.  The Lord gave direction and Moses, Joshua, Paul and the others all responded to the will of the Lord.  They finished what the Lord started in their lives.  Even Solomon finished what David had been saving materials and money for – the Temple.  The idea started with God.

Jesus completed the will of the Father in accomplishing the greatest need man had – the payment for our sin on the Cross.  Jesus paid it all and finished the work of salvation.

Philippians 1:6 instructs: Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:

It could be your marriage, family, a job, a ministry, a vocation, school year, education, or book you are reading:  Be a finisher of what God puts in your heart today.  Be a “closer.”